1. Men want to be desired. So let him know you are physically attracted to him & compliment him when you can. Let him know you're proud of his accomplishments.
2. Men aren't afraid of honesty & they don't want to feel like they have to change who they are for you. You can't change him so don't even try.
2. Men are linear in their goals & objectives & have no appreciation for drama. Don't come at him broadside especially if it is irrelevant to him.
4. Wrap your arms around him, show a little PDA. Initiate.
Women are linear too & believe that sexual desire comes first. Take a page out of Nike's book, "Just do it!" If you enjoy it, it's called responsive desire. It's a bio-psycho-social model that resonates with today's busy woman.
5. Never let him believe your love is conditional. Remember, he likes his freedom. Don't undermine him or threaten his masculinity.
6. Be authentic & real. Don't fake anything especially the Big O! Let him help you to experience them!
7. Talk to him......in bed. Guide him. Men are totally turned on when a woman verbalizes what she wants, what feels good & when she feels pleasure. Be vulnerable in bed, open up & let go.
You can still be a boss but be yourself & he'll be his.
]]>Sexual fantasy is a universal phenomenon (reported by 95% of people) but often lies still in the mind, never to be acted upon. Sexual fantasies may be quick flashbacks or long erotic stories as in pornographic films and/or literature. They may involve someone other than a person’s partner. Sexual fantasy is considered to be a taboo subject and, therefore, people are not inclined to discuss their fantasies.
Sexual fantasies are important in a relationship because they may increase sexual desire and arousal and the chance of experiencing orgasm, increasing sexual satisfaction. Sexual fantasies shared may increase sexual self-esteem and confidence in a relationship creating intimate moments shared exclusively by a couple (or a threesome, if that is your fantasy).
Women are inclined to have pleasant romantic fantasies; a few times per month according to study at the University of Granada. Men’s sexual fantasies are more adventurous involving promiscuity, cheating, and participating in an orgy.
Passion is vital to any relationship. Fantasy has the capacity to increase the passion whether shared with your lover or not. Thinking about another person while making love with your partner of many years serves to increase arousal and does no harm.
How to Incorporate Your Sexual Fantasies into Your Relationship
First off, simply paying attention to your sexual fantasies helps. Your fantasy is yours and therein lies its beauty. However, if you would like a bit of guidance here is my fantasy threesome for you:
- It is not uncommon for men and women to fantasize about having sex with their co-workers. This is a perfect scenario to play out in your own bedroom and it is a lot safer as well. So, you be the boss and let your partner be the new hire.
- A common fantasy for women is to make love with a stranger. This idea not only sounds titillating but is downright delicious. Be that stranger in the night for your woman. Rent a motel/hotel room. Women love this fantasy because they can make love with wreckless abandon.
- Working as an exotic dancer is a common fantasy for many women. Grabbing that pole and having the freedom to fully express one’s sexuality is exhilarating and being nude in front of people is erotic. So use your imagination. Grab that pole. See that crowd. And guys, be that crowd!
Hopefully this will provide you with the confidence in your sexual fantasies and get you and your imagination back to the bedroom having way more fun!
]]>Jonathan was having difficulty maintaining his erection and it was beginning to impact their relationship. He was quite embarrassed and had not sought treatment despite his wife’s urging to speak to their family doctor. She was concerned that it may be a sign of other health problems.
Erectile Dysfunction is the canary in the coal mine and may be a sign of things to come.
ED is a common condition affecting about 50% of all Canadian men 40+ years of age (based on a Canadian survey of men seen by primary care physicians).* Men in their twenties and thirties may also experience ED.
It is not uncommon for men to feel embarrassed when they begin to have erection difficulties and want to ignore the issue. This can be a big mistake because it may in fact be a sign of an underlying health problem like heart disease or diabetes. It may also lead to anger, difficulties in a relationship, sleep problems, and even depression.
There are a number of different causes for erectile dysfunction which can include:
- Mediations
- Alcohol consumption
- Poor penile blood flow
- Fatigue
- Chronic illness
Having occasional erection difficulties isn’t always a cause for concern; however, if persistent, it may cause stress, impact sexual self esteem, and negatively effect one's relationship.
It is advisable to speak to your doctor about erectile dysfunction. It seems that most men are quite embarrassed when this arises (pun intended) because they feel it strikes at their manhood. In many cases ED can be reversed, so it's important to open that discussion with your healthcare provider.
There are many treatment options for erectile dysfunction which can include:
- Exercise
- Healthy diet
- Testosterone
- Medications that increase blood flow
- Vacuum pumps
- Injections
- Pellets containing medication inserted into the urethra
Sex is intimately tied to health. People who are sexually active look younger, have better moods and sleep better. It is also the best and most natural pain medication ever. You’ll want to treat your erectile dysfunction so you can have more fun and get back to the bedroom!
* Source: http://www.pfizer.ca/sites/g/files/g10017036/f/201410/Erectile_Dysfunction.pdf]]>