When Julie presented to my clinical practice she was in tears. At age 44, she was on the brink of a divorce due to her sexless marriage. She has seen my TEDx Stanley Park talk and heard me say at the end, “ladies there are treatments for vaginal dryness.” She had been suffering with vaginal dryness for three years and was unable to enjoy sex with her husband.
Her husband Terry on the other hand was very angry with her and did not understand why lubricants during sex would not work. I explained that lubricants do not work for every woman and may make a situation worse. Her husband made it very clear that if sex was not a part of their marriage, then he was out. Their relationship suffered as did sexual desire on both parts. The worse their relationship became the worse the vaginal dryness as well. Few women realize that stress may trigger or even worsen vaginal dryness.
Julie wondered what I was referring to in my TEDx Stanley Park when I made that statement about personal moisturizers. I explained to Julie that just as it is important that women moisturize their face, the same holds true for the vagina. Estrogen is the hormone regulator of the vagina which helps it to maintain moisture and elasticity and when it diminishes during peri-menopause, vaginal dryness may be the result.
I suggested she try Gynatrof a hormone-free gel that is inserted into the vagina nightly for one week and then to be used regularly twice a week at night. Gynatrof would optimize after 2-3 months and I suggested Julie return to my office at that time in follow up. I also suggested Julie tell her husband that vaginal dryness is a medical condition and results in painful sex for upwards of 80% of women at some point in their lives.
Already visibly relieved, Julie left my office armed with Gynatrof samples. She was excited to get going on treatment for her vaginal dryness. She loved sex and her husband very much and was still quite sexually attracted to him. When Julie was finished with the sample of Gynatrof, I informed her she could find it at London Drugs, Shoppers or on-line.
Julie returned after two months with a smile on her face and her husband on her arm. Obviously very connected, they wanted to come together to let me know how grateful they both were for learning about vaginal dryness treatment and how it pretty much had saved their marriage.
When I told Julie that the treatment for vaginal dryness is lifelong, she quipped, “that’s fine because I plan on having sex with my husband for the rest of my life!” Another marriage saved.
Maureen McGrath is a Registered Nurse host of the Sunday Night Sex Show on News Talk 980 CKNW, feminist, women's health expert and a 2016 TED speaker on the Sexless Marriage. Her book is available on Amazon.ca : Sex & Health: Why One Can't Come Without The Other. She is recipient of the Vancouver Board of Trade Community Catalyst Award 2016 and a finalist for YWCA Women of Distinction.