"A new man, that's the treatment," said my 80 year patient after I told her I was speaking about low sexual desire in pre-menopausal women that evening.
I laughed so hard yet couldn't help but wonder if she'd had some regret about her own sex life. Maybe she'd let someone get away. Married the wrong person? Or regretted not accepting the advances of a colleague to whom she was attracted.
Shoulda? Coulda? Didn't?
Secrets of the brain are as locked up as secrets of the heart.
Men & women's sexual desire drive can be quite different. For men, it's a switch, triggered by stress, a song or some other seemingly stupid thing. Insert #eyeroll But not all men.
Many women approach sex from a place of neutrality, especially in a long term relationship. Again, not all women. Many women enjoy great sex. But that can change.
Men & Women may experience low sexual desire. 1 in 10 women will experience Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSDD) a medical condition not helped "by a new man."
HSDD occurs 75-100% of the time in all circumstances for 6 months & is bothersome to the woman. She desires desire. Her marriage is good, sex life not so much.
The problem is the not bedroom, it's the brain. HSDD is thought to disrupt neurochemistry; Dopamine, Serotonin and Nor-Epinephrine. It's the brain that needs treatment.
So if a new man doesn't do it for you, mindfulness may be. Or, now there's a daily medication to help restore balance to your neurotransmitters.
The brain is the largest sex organ & sex is for you too ladies!